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Marriage looks wonderfully endearing to the single particular person who has in no way married, and probably to the divorced man or woman who hankers for something to arrest their longing for companionship or sexual release, but marriage for nearly all of us is quite a hard work at occasions. (And I can say this even as a representative of my wife!). We carry so a lot of ourselves into our marriages – which is both a very good and a undesirable factor.

We carry in expectations of being ‘met’ by our partners: that they will satisfy us sexually, not commit as well much funds, not seek out to control us, that they will want to spend time with us. We also deliver in expectations of what our partners need to deliver to us: their virtues of diligence and moderation and sanctity and kindness – to name just four. We are disappointed when they don’t measure up to our previously unconscious expectations – that have now become conscious due to our encroaching annoyance.

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This act of submission saves the wolf’s life and the wolf pack remains intact. We suspect that the reason many people stay in dangerously abusive marriages is this “old brain’s” impulse to submit as a way of surviving. The Old Brain and Safety, When the old brain perceives safety, the parasympathetic system takes over and in safety the old brain knows how to do five things.

Not only you meet your REAL spouse after 5, 10, 15 or more years for the first time, but very often that’s the time when you meet the REAL SELF that you are for the first time! I am simply amazed, when I hear the stories of either successful or failed marriages and how character either built them up or brought them down to destruction.

Good Communication: Couples who must succeed in marriage must possess the ability to go beyond mere daily information. There must be some deep form of communication in which feelings and emotions must be communicated. It must be fun to them to sometimes sit out, relax and just talk about themselves.

Most people don’t get married believing that insurmountable conflicts with their spouse are going to arise over the course of their relationships. Consequently, this often means that when issue resulting in conflict do arise, they take couple by surprise and can lead to disillusionment – or worse.

Marriage is not an easy undertaking, that’s why marriage conflict arises at times. But if you have truly found the right mate for you, it will make your time together more desirable and less marriage conflict will arise. So many people will wonder how do you know it’s the right person.

Think about the good times in your marriage and those times when the marriage were able to survive the difficult trials. If you have survived the previous conflicts in your marriage, you can also survive your current problems in your marriage.

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So if your partner criticizes you and you had some history with a critical parent or older brother or sister or teacher, your Old Brain may react emotionally and reactively as though you were once again living with and dealing with that old critic. This can happen even when you consciously know that your partner is different than the old critic and you are now an adult, not a child.

Listen carefully to their response, restate it to them to be certain you both are hearing things the way they were intended. Ask for their feedback on your statements to be certain they understand what you are saying.

It can result both to act illogically and do things that will even worsen the weak situation. It can prove a real challenge, but it is really important to make continuous endeavor to think rationally, stay calm and speak rationally.

These 3 rules will help keep the love alive in your relationship. Moreover, if you can keep those loving feelings alive, you are on your way to a marriage that will last. Start with the basics, and then read on for more help, Don’t take everything personally – In marriage, we get so comfortable with each other that we begin to read each other’s minds.

The media often times paints a grim picture through the many tragic divorce cases it brings to our awareness and the sense that once the divorce word comes into place, there is no way around it. On the other hand, the media paints a different picture of romance and love, more often telling stories of fantasy love that rarely happen in real life.

Granted, yes, there are one or two such individuals; yet, the majority of couples hit by marital discord ask themselves individually, “How did I fall so far away from saving my marriage?” It is time now to consider the TRUE and REAL hands-on technique for solving spousal relationship ramifications.

Seek out a program where you and your spouse have the opportunity to learn and practice concrete skills, under supervision, you can continue to use regularly at home. Both secular and faith-based programs are available. While people sometimes express concern about sharing their problems in the presence of other couples, workshops have their own set of benefits.

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The Mid-Brain (The Mammalian Brain), The second brain, like it or not, is similar to mammals. This is the part of our brain that mediates or controls emotion. We generally do not think of snakes or lizards as having emotion, but mammals (dogs, cats, etc.) experience what we call emotion. They can be afraid, angry, loving, happy, etc. Humans have a wide and rich range of emotion.

His/her character could be the nasty, darkest, most competitive, vengeful part of that person and you never saw it fully displayed until a crisis evolved. Love making, kissing, tenderness, kindness and all the good gestures before the crisis where part of his/her personality. The crisis is, perhaps, the first time when your spouse stands truly, emotionally naked, in front of you for the first time.

One of the most often asked questions I face in dealing with marital conflict is: “Why did things change so much since I married?” or “This is not the same person I met!” or worst yet… “I was deceived… I met person A and now I come to find out I am living with person B!”.

When offended, a person may yell, curse, throw things, hit, or any number of reactions that express anger in a violent way. These actions may be strictly verbal, physical, or both. This is PEACE BREAKING.

When you don’t know how to communicate and solve problems as a couple and you have children, they are unable to learn these skills from you. In turn, they grow up not knowing how to have healthy relationships. The result is an inter-generational problem: kids grow up having the same relationship struggles their parents have.

In my many years of mentoring couples in business and personal relationships, I have found certain 7 “Proactive Actions” which, if taken by either (but more successfully by both) spouse, go a long way to resolving just about all conflicts which arise in a marriage. Make the decision to stay married, A choice becomes a decision when you assassinate all options – when you burn down all exit doors!.

To be a good partner, you must listen to your partner and be willing to make an attempt to understand his or her point of view. You must keep cool and not argue and take everything your partner says into consideration. You should also calmly and lovingly express your own needs and desires. Through open communication, you can save a marriage and even make it happier than before.

If this can be done in a civil and business like manner, it will be absolutely conducive to marriage survival. A wise man once said “Make your plan – and then work it”. Conflict between husband and wife is a normal part of every marriage. However, there comes a point when it can be damaging to the relationship if not handled properly.

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