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Marriage seems wonderfully endearing to the single individual who has never married, and possibly to the divorced individual who hankers for anything to arrest their longing for companionship or sexual release, but marriage for practically all of us is really a challenging operate at occasions. (And I can say this even as a representative of my wife!). We carry so considerably of ourselves into our marriages – which is the two a great and a negative thing.

We bring in expectations of being ‘met’ by our partners: that they will satisfy us sexually, not devote also significantly money, not seek to management us, that they will want to spend time with us. We also deliver in expectations of what our partners need to bring to us: their virtues of diligence and moderation and sanctity and kindness – to identify just 4. We are disappointed when they don’t measure up to our previously unconscious expectations – that have now turn out to be aware due to our encroaching annoyance.

How To Solve Marriage Conflict?

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One thing almost no one knows about saving a marriage, is that conflict is good for your relationship. The one lesson I wish I had learned years ago is that conflict is an opportunity. It is one of the few ways to resolve differences, change people’s hearts rather than their circumstances, and bring two people closer together than they were before.

I know what I am saying might sound radical to you, but before you turn away from reading the rest of this article, allow me to reveal to you the ONE single ROOT of ALL marital conflicts. What Is The Root of All Conflicts?.

For a marriage to work you need to spend time and attention on it. It is no different to running a business or growing plants; they all require nurturing to blossom and grow. Reassure your partner that you love them daily. Some people get married and think that their partner knows that they love them so why should they have to say it. It shows your partner that you still care about them.

Pride in you will insist on your own way and refuse to compromise on what you want even though it hurts your marriage. Since you have to overcome pride, does that mean that you become completely subservient to your partner and obey his every whim and fancy?

Over the course of a marriage, or any long term relationship, for that matter, there are times when the best thing to do is try it the other persons way. The capitulating partner comes from a place that basically says, “Our relationship and our happiness is more important to me than this issue. Let’s try it your way.”

Giving up on your marriage should not be an option, inf act if you work towards it, following a good guidance then you can effectively turn that your marriage that was on the verge of hitting the rocks to the one you only previously dreamed of, a marriage filled with bliss.

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And, very importantly, must do it in a respectful way. In premarital counseling, I often say to couples, if something is bothering you in your marriage, you need to say something about it to your mate. Go ahead and complain. When you do, you’re being honest with your mate.

When you factor in, new experiences, change of perceptions, hormonal changes and repeated emotional injuries through the years you begin to realize that character is all you have to keep a marriage sound and healthy.

The problem with this, is that we start making assumptions, and that gets us into trouble. We assume they are upset at us for this or that. Or perhaps we assume their bad mood is because of us. The truth of the matter is that not everything is about us, and therefore, we need to step back, and not take everything personally.

It would be nice to know if there was a simple process or formula you could use to find the right partner. Unfortunately there isn’t, but many people seem to rush into marriage. Avoid the quick marriage problem, but instead wait a few years to tie the knot. Marriage conflict will be less if you have grown together over years and know each other so deeply.

What About The Old Brain?, For simplicity’s sake, in this WEB site, we will lump the Hindbrain and the Midbrain together and refer to them as “The Old Brain.” It is “old” not in the sense that it is out of date or not as valuable as the Cortex (The “New Brain”). We actually are wise to learn to deeply respect, value and honor the “Old Brain.”

Nearly EVERY “saving-my-marriage” solution equates to something you can affectionately refer to as “Mastering The Art of Unconditional Love,” and there are few who consciously practice it — mostly because they remain in an unconscious state of blinded awareness in matters or romantic relationships or marital compassion.

Not talking, refusing to share or self-disclose, lying, keeping secrets. When I was in graduate school, one of my professors told of an architect who build a secret room in his home and did not tell his wife about it.

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The principle here is to practice honesty is a respectful way. And here’s how you can be honest with your mate & complain, and still respectful at the same time. Let’s say a wife is neglected by her husband.

In my many years of mentoring couples in business and personal relationships, I have found certain 7 “Proactive Actions” which, if taken by either (but more successfully by both) spouse, go a long way to resolving just about all conflicts which arise in a marriage. Make the decision to stay married, A choice becomes a decision when you assassinate all options – when you burn down all exit doors!.

The Old Brain knows how to run. How do you run in a relationship? Literally leave the house, go for a drive, separate, work later and later at the office. The Old Brain knows how to “freeze.”The twig snaps in the forest and the deer freezes. Have you ever come home and sensed that something was amiss and you were in trouble and froze. That is, decide to say nothing or do nothing until you can assess the danger.

They get married too soon, and too fast. Be it for love and romance, or for the sake of a baby that’s on the way, or two kids just looking for a way to get out of their parents house, improper planning is one of the root causes of marital conflict.

Speak about what actually happened, who did what, what was said by whom and when, how you felt when it happened and how your partner’s words or actions affected you.

This miscommunication leads to misunderstanding which in turn leads to something going wrong. When something goes wrong, tensions arise which leads to confrontations, conflicts, arguments, quarrels and fights between the two of you. This brings me to the all-important key in saving your marriage.

So don’t buy into the lie; compatibility is not all that counts in making a happy marriage. A better thing to focus on, and develop are skills for conflict-resolving and communication. This will not only help you in your relationship with your spouse, but in all other relationships as well. And the development and refining of these skills will help to save your marriage from divorce.

Our wives and husbands are dealing with irresolvable issues – struggles and frustrations – just as we are – but they are just various. If we can flip toward them, releasing our expectations in faith, their release is imminent, and then so is ours. The irresolvable concerns in marriage will both torment us as we hold onto our unrealistic expectations for modify, or they will release us into a new season of peace and joy.

Not long ago a mother confided in me (after a number of conversations) that after 32 years of marriage she was actually flipping because she was comparing her daughter’s marriage with hers and she saw her daughter happier than she had herself ever been. She was actually contemplating divorce to find someone that would provide her with what she thought was missing in her life.

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