Social Problems Of Early Marriage

Marriage would seem wonderfully endearing to the single individual who has never ever married, and perhaps to the divorced person who hankers for something to arrest their longing for companionship or sexual release, but marriage for practically all of us is very a tough perform at instances. (And I can say this even as a representative of my wife!). We carry so considerably of ourselves into our marriages – which is each a excellent and a bad factor.

We bring in expectations of becoming ‘met’ by our partners: that they will satisfy us sexually, not devote too considerably income, not look for to handle us, that they will want to devote time with us. We also carry in expectations of what our partners must bring to us: their virtues of diligence and moderation and sanctity and kindness – to title just 4. We are disappointed when they don’t measure up to our previously unconscious expectations – that have now grow to be aware due to our encroaching annoyance.

All of us have conflicts in our relationships

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In my many years of mentoring couples in business and personal relationships, I have found certain 7 “Proactive Actions” which, if taken by either (but more successfully by both) spouse, go a long way to resolving just about all conflicts which arise in a marriage. Make the decision to stay married, A choice becomes a decision when you assassinate all options – when you burn down all exit doors!.

Of course, I jumped to the occasion and asked the obvious question… “Who is Nikki? The one your husband Mike met 10 years ago or the Nikki he sees now?” She soon saw the difference between personality and character. Personality, (the nice Nikki) was revealed when things were new and smooth.

One common trait in successfully married couples is not the absence of conflicts but knowing how to conduct themselves during conflicts. The way NOT to do it is to attack the personhood of the partner. Accusations, rudeness, vulgarity, name calling and personal attacks are the wrong means to have a fight between spouses.

It is unrealistic to think that you can eliminate conflict from a relationship. A good marriage and family counselor will instead teach a couple healthy ways to resolve their conflicts without damaging their relationship.

And life of my partner wasn’t any better. We were at each other’s hair all the time and this started to affect not just my family life, but also my professional life. I found it very hard to concentrate because my mind constantly busy worrying about my marriage.

The Enemy of Conflict Resolution?. The enemy of conflict resolution is pride. Pride blocks the path towards admitting your own wrong, asking for forgiveness from your partner and taking the first step towards reconciliation.

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Unrealistic Presumptions: A number of young people believe marriage to be a state of permanent happiness. They are however let down in frustration and disappointment early in the marriages when they discover otherwise.

Too many people make a choice to stay married, rather than making a decision to stay married, then they find themselves revisiting their choice every time things don’t go their way in a marriage. Make the decision to stay married, and then you don’t have to be revisiting the matter each day.

He will emotionally withdraw from me in return, and in time, with several small “incidents” between us, we begin to complain to others, spend more time alone, or worse yet, start spending time with a person of the opposite sex that seems to “understand” us so much better.

In this series of articles, I’d like to share with you principles for handling any conflict. Here’s the first principle for dealing with any conflict. You’ve got to be honest with each other in a marriage.

It is the part of our brain that controls our automatic functions (keeps our heart beating, controls breathing, pumps adrenalin when needed, etc.). The hindbrain is constantly alert to possible danger and when danger is perceived, it takes over. For instance, if you were to hear a sudden, loud, noise, you would have what is called a “startle” response.

Marital problems can lead to divorce and it is important to know the best ways of overcoming marriage problems to keep your marriage intact. It is normal to encounter problems and conflicts in any relationship and it can be very hard to avoid them but if you know how to deal with them, your relationship will last for years.

Words such as, “You are so stupid, why did I marry you in the first place?” are intensely damaging to the marriage relationship. Successfully married couples know the secret of arguing correctly. Their secret is to stick to the facts (rather than opinions) and issues about the conflict.

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I like to say that character is the “raw” self without the façade and the defense mechanisms we use to protect ourselves. Have you heard the statement: “We never though this person would do this?”.

Keep your spouse’s “Love Tank” full, You and your spouse each have a certain action which hits the hot button of your spouse in showing your love for each other. It may be a gift, praise, physical touch, quality time together, praise and edification, or others. Like a fuel tank on your car, when it is empty the car stops performing.

There are usually two types of responses to conflict, fight or flight. But a third response is possible and it is the only proper response to bring resolution to your problems. I’ll talk about FIGHT first.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can turn things around. If I could do it, so can you. A year ago I was miserable shadow of human being. Endless conflicts in my relationship were bringing me down, my self-esteem was at its lowest and I was constantly in the bad mood.

Fidelity: Unfaithfulness in marriage is one of the reasons why most marriages fail. It only takes a unique person to forgive and forget when it comes to extra marital affairs. The true character of that person is simply showing up for the first time.

Can you imagine? This woman’s true character was finally showing up at age 52! Amazing! She later admitted to deep feelings of competitiveness with her daughter since she was a teenager. Character is fundamentally crucial to the success of a marriage, the long term negotiation of differences, and marital conflict resolution in marriage.

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